Wednesday, August 02, 2006

Wedding more than once?

Now, to be certain, I do not take cues from hollywood starlets when making decisions about my future. However, Pamela Andersen's recent decision to marry in several places legally and non-legally got the wheels in my head turning...

So I pose the question: Does having more than one wedding ceremony lessen the meaningfulness of the marriage/wedding?

My hubby-to-be and I are taking a much needed and well deserved trip to Turks & Caicos next week and ever since I heard about Pamela and her commemorative (non-legal) yacht wedding I've been fantasizing about getting married on the beach to my beloved without obtaining a license. But is this a cop-out?

I want my big (little) wedding with all my family and friends but there is still much to be said for having an intimate exchange of vows just to each other and before God. It would also help us to deal with some of pre-wedding guilt about not being married and co-habitating before the wedding. But what do you gals think?

The thought of being able to declare my committment to the man I love with just God above and the ocean behind us is one that is to beautiful to bear but will it ruin the big day if I let the guests know?

Clearly we would want to express our married state but I fear it would lessen the importance of our "official/legal" wedding day. I really would love to hear some of your insights...

I mean, who hasn't dreamed of a beach wedding? Right now it is seeming a bit more meaningful and romantic to me than a walk down the aisle at the local Hilton, but that's just me. I want it all... but can I have it all?


Anonymous Anonymous said...

I understand EXACTLY what you mean. Yes I am somewhat addicted to this blog but not as much as the DC area knot message boards.

Part of what reminded me "BAD 1LBride, have your wedding in NJ, not Tortola" (island in BVI that I love) is how much I love my family and how important they all were in shaping who I am today, the person my fiance loves. Having my aunts and cousins (ok and everyone else too) there will make it more special for us. A marriage is similar to a new life, and who doesn't want to celebrate that?

Future mother in law doesn't love the cohabitation OR the idea of getting married "young" (she was 21, mind you) but you can't please everyone because they are all crazy, so don't try.

At least that's how I rationalized it.

Thursday, August 03, 2006 4:24:00 PM  

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