Thursday, February 19, 2009

Something blue...

I've mentioned on here a few times my search for shoes. I finally found the perfect pair, and then, my dress came in and I was beyond ecstatic. They looked perfect together. I was infatuated with my dress/shoe combo.

Never the conventional one, my mother was not surprised when I picked navy shoes. She tried to get me to go with white shoes but I wasn't having it. I appreciate certain traditions but others? Are meant to be broken.

So I was appalled today when I got an email from my future brother in law telling me that he thinks I should "reconsider" my shoes.

"...personally I have to say in the pic they stick out and not in a good way. I feel a bride should be all in white and you don't want to draw attention to your feet with a dark colored shoe compared to the very white dress. Your supposed to be different from the bridesmaids no need to match something. So there's my 2 cents I don't know if anyone else had mentioned that but I thought I should."
Not going to lie, I feel, and I could be totally off base here, that he was out of line. My future mother in law told me earlier this weekend on an impromptu trip north to surprise her for the long weekend, that she felt I should reconsider my navy shoes. The picture he is referring to is the one above.

I told her - politely - thank you for the input, but no thanks. White shoes, while I appreciate white shoes, and appreciate that many brides wear white shoes, I'd just...rather not.

I've seen some fabulous pictures of brides wearing non-white shoes - in a variety of colors and I love the look. It just adds a little bit of flair to what is otherwise a rather...traditional day. I've never been the one to go all traditional so I don't plan on my wedding day being a day when I break that habit.

The Weddingbee boards show that I'm not the only one who wants colored shoes - additionally, there are other brides on The Knot.com boards who are defying convention.

[via Dallas Wedding Planner]

Now, I know, I might be over reacting, being a little too sensitive. But it's a stressful time. We're signing a new contract for our reception, we just finished and sent out the Save the Dates, my boss is back from a three week trip away and we're two weeks out from a huge event at work - I'm stressed. And attacking my shoes? The Best MAN attacking my shoes??

I just feel...a little sensitive. Maybe too sensitive. Obviously I'm not the only one adding a bit o' flair to my bridal outfit....

what about you? How are you adding flair to your outfit?

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

White shoes are boring :P Sooo many brides are wearing non white shoes now I would even go far as to say MOST brides are wearing non whites shoes. Most likely no one will ever even know what your shoes looked like but even if they do, they will love the fact that they are a little punch.

Thursday, February 19, 2009 4:14:00 AM  
Blogger Miss Cleveland Park said...

I love colored shoes! I have ones to match my bridesmaid dresses!!! :) Ill blog about that when I get them in

Thursday, February 19, 2009 9:57:00 AM  
Blogger DCKate said...

i LOVE them. don't listen to the naysayers. i got blue shoes too! i can't wait to wear them. FBIL is way out of line. "the bride is supposed to be in all white?" he sounds like a chauvinist pig! tell him he's allowed to have an opinion on your attire when he learns the difference between "your" and "you're" ;-)

Thursday, February 19, 2009 10:24:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

They are way out of line to make ANY suggestions about what you wear on YOUR wedding day! You're the bride!!!! If you want to wear a pink polka dot dress and orange flowers in your hair you should be allowed. Do you really think your FBIL and your FMIL have ANY idea of what the trends are right now in the bridal industry? absolutely not! i think from now on you should keep the unique things you plan on doing a secret. it seems like there's too many chefs in the kitchen and everyone has an opinion.

Thursday, February 19, 2009 11:17:00 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

You should wear whatever you want since you care way more than they ever will. I rarely asked for anyone's opinion when wedding planning because frankly I didn't want their opinion. I agree with Alison that maybe you shouldn't share details.

They can do whatever they want for their wedding and you have the right to do what you want for yours.

Thursday, February 19, 2009 12:30:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Love the shoes. FBIL was totally out of line, and you should either ignore him completely or (if you must respond) acknowledge his opinion and move on. No "thanks" (because it wasn't appreciated); no "i'll take that into consideration" (because you shouldn't; it's nuts); just a general "Oh, i see..." and change the subject.

Geez. Some people, you know?

Thursday, February 19, 2009 4:57:00 PM  
Blogger heidzilla said...

I totally wore navy shoes!!!!! Our colors were navy and gold and I loved how they looked with my diamond white dress. The bridal store, my mom and my FMIL didn't really get it... but didn't really try to talk me out of it, either (not that I would have let them.) I love the navy peep in shots where I'm walking down the aisle or for the garter toss.



Thursday, February 19, 2009 9:00:00 PM  
Blogger Emily said...

I bought my veil at a consignment shop for $15 so I used the left over money in the budget to buy red christian louboutins with the feather flower on top (they were on sale, but still!), which went perfectly with the red flowers that were everywhere at my wedding. My mom thought they were too high, my maid of honor thought they were too high and my future MIL totally didn't get it, but I felt fabulous. I LOVE the shoes you chose. I might order them for me! They'll get it when they see the pictures.

Friday, February 20, 2009 11:31:00 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

I am totally wearing blue shoes - my dress is embroidered in blue and has a blue sash. Why would you even spend money on a pair of white shoes which you would never wear again?

Monday, February 23, 2009 10:33:00 AM  

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