umm so.
My dad isn't going to be at my wedding.
It's not that we don't get along, or he doesn't approve of the marriage, or anything that. he just doesn't travel. he was born and raised in Maine and he doesn't own a computer or understand the internetz. He's never been in a commercial airplane. etc.
I know this. I accept this. I still love him. Like a lot.
But sometimes it just hits me that my dad isn't going to walk me down the aisle and there will be no father-daughter dance and blah blah blah boo hooo. I've asked my best friend/MOH's dad if he would do the honors and he gladly accepted. Someone asked why I didn't just have my mom do it - honestly it hadn't occurred to me. I guess I could have done that but the question has already been asked and I couldn't very well take the job away from him if I wanted to - which I don't. He's not going to "give me away," he's just going to be a strong and calming arm to hold on to as I walk down the aisle. He and his wife have been like a second set of parents to me for the past 10+ years so it feels right. But I feel like I'm going to confuse the hell out of my guests...
Sorry I don't mean to bring the tone down right before the holiday weekend! I was just thinking about it and figured I should explain because I'm going to need advice on some things.. What if Mr. Fairfax wants to have a mother-son dance? Is it going to be weird that I'm not dancing with my dad? Also should I try to explain the situation or just let it be and let guests come to their own conclusions?
in other news.. aaahhhh I love this wedding!! happy holiday weekend :)
It's not that we don't get along, or he doesn't approve of the marriage, or anything that. he just doesn't travel. he was born and raised in Maine and he doesn't own a computer or understand the internetz. He's never been in a commercial airplane. etc.
I know this. I accept this. I still love him. Like a lot.
But sometimes it just hits me that my dad isn't going to walk me down the aisle and there will be no father-daughter dance and blah blah blah boo hooo. I've asked my best friend/MOH's dad if he would do the honors and he gladly accepted. Someone asked why I didn't just have my mom do it - honestly it hadn't occurred to me. I guess I could have done that but the question has already been asked and I couldn't very well take the job away from him if I wanted to - which I don't. He's not going to "give me away," he's just going to be a strong and calming arm to hold on to as I walk down the aisle. He and his wife have been like a second set of parents to me for the past 10+ years so it feels right. But I feel like I'm going to confuse the hell out of my guests...
Sorry I don't mean to bring the tone down right before the holiday weekend! I was just thinking about it and figured I should explain because I'm going to need advice on some things.. What if Mr. Fairfax wants to have a mother-son dance? Is it going to be weird that I'm not dancing with my dad? Also should I try to explain the situation or just let it be and let guests come to their own conclusions?
in other news.. aaahhhh I love this wedding!! happy holiday weekend :)
Labels: family drama, Miss Fairfax
posted by Miss Fairfax at 6:35 PM
3 Comments:
If your dad can't make it, I would just let it be without making a major production out of it.
That said, your dad may change his mind. Depending on where/ when the wedding is, maybe you could arrange for a train or car for him?
if your hubby to be wants to dance with his mother i don't think he should be denied that. my father has passed but my groom and his mother will still be dancing, i didn't even think twice about it... it's his day as much as yours.
i assume that the guests at your wedding know you and therefore know your father's situation and why he can't be there. i would assume for anyone that may not know (grooms friends, etc.) if they ask there is someone around who can explain to them.
i don't believe you need to explain it to everyone, most people won't pry anyway.
thanks for the feedback. no I definitely wouldn't try to keep the groom from having a mother-son dance, just wondered if I should have a dance with Someone as well, or just let it be. sounds like I could just let it be.
I think it'll be fine! I just have silly moments of overthinking everything.
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