Friday, October 23, 2009

Deep Thoughts by Miss Glen Echo...

What is a bridezilla? Am I a bridezilla? Several events have occurred lately has me self-reflecting on this...and I am a little concerned...

A "Bridezilla" is defined as follows: "Webster's Definition: Bridezilla\ bride-zil-a n 1 Horrific, bulging-eyed bride prone to screaming spells and spontaneous fits of hysterical rage. Bridezillas are known to drop blows over seating charts, get bug-eyed at the mere mention of carnations and view hurling champagne at their wedding planners as a form of hazing." Actually, this is the definition from Bridezilla.com...although Webster should just go ahead and adopt it.

I am not quite there...yet...but I feel the rage coming. I am going through some issues with the woman that is doing our invitations. I have been emailing her since June...it is now October and she has finally finished our invitations. She sent me some paper samples and I picked a nice green color that went well with our overall color scheme. I was SO excited about the prospect of 1) seeing my wedding inviations and 2) finally being done with this whole process. She gauranteed them to me, by today, last week. She emailed me about them and said they should be arriving this week...that's all.

Yesterday, I got an email saying that they did not have the paper I picked and she went ahead and had them printed on white paper and that they looked nice. She had the nerve to include a "YAY" in the email! I do not think I have ever been that mad over the color of paper before in my life. My main complaint is that she did not even ask me if that was what I wanted. She indicated that they ran out of the green paper I wanted and SHE made the decision to put them on white, but that if I did not like them on white, she would re-print them on the green. Which leads me to think that she should have asked me if I was willing to wait the extra time for the green paper instead of sticking it on the white paper that I specifically did not want.

Mr. Glen Echo helped me calm down, because I was ready to flip out via email. He suggested waiting to see what arrived and then going from there. So, I am now calm...but I swear if that deliver does not come today!!!! This might be me... (source)

I tried to step back and reflect...because in the back of my mind, the idea of losing my 'ish over paper was borderline, if not full on, bridezilla. But, why? I mean, if you spent $150 on a couch, wouldn't you be upset if the wrong wrong was delivered? Or, if you purchased a dress, wouldn't you return it if it was in the wrong color or just didn't fit right?

Then, why is my reaction of displeasure about the color of my invitation paper making me so paranoid? For some reason, being upset about anything associated with your wedding means you are a "zilla" or at least that label immediately comes to mind. Is this fair? Of course I want to be a laid back bride that takes in the "moment" when the day comes instead of crying over every little detail that does not go right. But, right now, I am thinking about the money I am spending to get to that point and that I am paying for a service that should be done right.

Anyone else concerned about potential Bridezilla-ish tendencies?

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Blogger D-Day said...

I know, it's unfortunate that you can't stick up for yourself as a bride without immediately wondering if you're a bridezilla. The crazies on TV certainly earn that title but I believe if you are putting down that kind of money on something, you are entitled to want it to come out the way you planned, and to have your opinion respected.

In this case I think you are 100% right to be upset that she made that decision without asking you first. How hard would it be to email or call and just be like "look that color is out of stock right now, do you want to see it on white?" Not hard.

I think you're right to wait and see what it looks like though.

Friday, October 23, 2009 2:05:00 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

we got them, they look fine...I'm going to keep them, mainly because I just don't want to deal with it anymore...

Friday, October 23, 2009 8:05:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think the thing most people confuse is the difference in being a customer and a bridezilla. if the change bothered you because oh my god this shade of white will never ever match perfectly with the shades of green you're using in the other wedding details and holy moly the entire day is going to be complete ruined because of the color of a piece of paper, then yes, that's a bridezilla.
but if you're upset because you purchased a product and weren't sent what you ordered, then that's normal. yes, she probably should have asked you before printing them on white but i'm sure she thought she was doing the better thing by sending you something in the original time frame you were expecting and then offering to send you what you ordered later if you still wanted that. now, if she didn't offer to send you what you ordered? then you should have been PISSED. as a customer.
just my take on it : )

Monday, October 26, 2009 7:57:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would have been upset. She definitely should have called you before making the paper decision herself. That's not really good customer service at all!

Monday, October 26, 2009 9:30:00 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Yeah, I think my main issue was the fact that she did not tell me about it and then assumed that was the color I would have picked. I just wished she had mentioned it to me before the wasted the paper. I told her my concerns in a very nice way and she is having them re-printed and sent to me this week. I think she understood where I was coming from and that was nice.

Monday, October 26, 2009 11:58:00 AM  

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