Friday, April 20, 2007

Details, Details....

Well, my final exams for my 1st year of law school start a week from today. Yet, all I can do is stress about all the planning that still remains to be done before my August nuptials. Should we just go ahead and sign the reception contract or wait to hash out every last detail? Where should we honeymoon? Should we go back to Turks & Caicos (the most beautiful place either me or M have ever seen) or should we go someplace NEW that we haven’t seen before and hope it meets our elevated expectations?

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And what church will we get married in? M and I are active members of an AMAZING church in VA called McLean Bible Church through which we attend Frontline (their young adults services) but the church is not a traditional church by any stretch. After spending enough to feed a small country in springing for my Melissa Sweet wedding gown, I no longer see a hotel as being the correct venue for our ceremony. I want a nice long aisle to drag my flowing train down. Photo Sharing and Video Hosting at Photobucket But none of the churches I’ve contacted will marry non-members. I’m beginning to worry we won’t have a ceremony at all if there is not some divine intervention soon!

And what about invitations? Should I go with the custom choice I had drawn up that cost a pretty penny more than I had hoped or should I keep searching for something more affordable now that I’ve used so much of my meager budget for a dress I will only wear once? (not that I regret the choice AT ALL.)

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Sometimes I feel as though the details of the wedding are consuming my every thought. Last night I had to really take time to pray to God and just put all this worrying aside. Even in the midst of prayers, all those doubts started creeping back into my mind. Should I have waited to find a yellow bridesmaids gown as I had originally wanted? Was it a bad idea to put the MOH in brown and everyone else in toffee? Why do I care so much about every LITTLE detail that even my prayers can’t be safeguarded from the anxiety?

I’ve decided that I will pull back a little bit and just go with the flow. I will stop worrying. Wedding planning is supposed to be fun… not this much stress. I realize that I put too much pressure on the details, which surely work themselves out at some point. It’s time I had a little faith!

Now, it’s time to focus on exams… In the meantime, I’ll be waiting on the copious invitation samples I spent this week ordering and hope that my sanity returns sometime prior to August…. M and I are beginning a Preparing for Marriage class at our church starting next Saturday so hopefully that will remind what this marriage and wedding stuff is all about. It’s not just about ONE day…it’s about a lifetime. Perhaps focusing on that will get me through this rough patch. Now…. If only I felt better about EXAMS!!!

My grandmother often reminds me that “this too shall pass.” Hopefully I will, as well!


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Not sure if this will help at all, but I've had no problem finding churches that will marry non-members. (I have been looking at Protestant churches in the Dupont area for the most part.) Just Google like crazy - also try going to specific denominations' home pages, then doing a search by zip code.
Good luck! Let us know how it goes :)

Monday, April 23, 2007 10:49:00 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

It depends on how specific a church you are looking for. But, there are churches who will marry non-members, you may just have to be flexible. I would try non-denoms first. And like the the poster above said, google is your friend!

Tuesday, April 24, 2007 8:19:00 AM  
Blogger Danielle Kanka said...

Check out Vienna Pres. They have a great sanctuary and they allow people from MBC/Frontline to get married there.

Hope this helps.

Tuesday, April 24, 2007 8:52:00 AM  
Blogger Nunzia said...

Thanks so much! I am leaning more towards non-denom or Baptist but I am going to take all your advice and see if i can find anything. I'll def. check out Vienna Pres. Thanks so much!

Tuesday, April 24, 2007 3:03:00 PM  

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