Thursday, February 19, 2009

A Trip down Bridezilla Road

Hello ladies! I am so sorry about being MIA! with 94 days on the clock, I can't believe how busy it has gotten!!! Ok.....I have a confession. I have had a few bridezilla moments. (At least I know, right?) I'd love to take you for a ride down Bridezilla road, Miss CP style. (DISCLAIMER: I am aware of my actions and apologize if anyone mentioned is shocked by any of this, but I think they all know.)


Ok, Bridezilla moment #1: Mom CP had very specific ideas as to what she envisioned for my wedding day. This was news to me! I had thought she honestly wouldn't care and would just hand over a check....(hilarious and naive, right?) So the first big fight we had went something like this.

Mom CP: I just got back from 's wedding and it was perfect! We should do a lot of the same things.

Me: I want to be original. I don't want all the same things as . Don't you get that? I want to be unique!

Mom CP: Well, I know, but hear me out. First of all, wore high heels and they killed her feet. You gotta wear flats, sneakers even.

Me: Um. WHAT. Do you know me? Do you expect me to wear keds or something? I don't wear flats normally, why would I on this day? Plus Mr. CP is 6 foot 4!!! Heeellloooo

Mom CP: Miss CP, relax. They had the cheese in a bowl on the side for the salad. We gotta have the nuts and the cheese on the side. You know some people have allergies.

Me: Mom. I dotn want my wedding to be a Roy Rogers fixin's bar (yes that is a direct quote...shame on me)

Mom CP: You know, you are really turning into a bridezilla and I cant take it.

This was the first time in my life my mother has hung up on me. I called her right back and she was crying and I apologized and realized I was a little over the top and we haven't fought since.

Bridezilla Moment #2: Let me begin by saying, I know, deep down, that I am being somewhat unreasonable. To give a background, one of my closest friends (Matron of Honor, actually) is pregnant. YAY! I couldn't be happier. This is true. She is a close friend and I know she really wants this and I am over-the-moon happy for her. We have been close since 6th grade, and I am thrilled. I knew she, as well as potentially another bridesmaid, could be pregnant and I, unlike other brides, was so excited! The drama began a few months ago when this bridesmaids' mother told another bridesmaids mother (don't you love the small town) that I told her daughter she was "absolutely not allowed to get pregnant before my wedding," which was untrue and honestly, hurtful. This is one of my best friends. I am so happy for her! I was so hurt that not only did her mom think this, but shared this with other people, especially, since it was 100% false. Anyways, I let it go. I confronted said bridesmaid and she said she knew I didn't feel that way. So, in respect to our friendship, I let this one slide....which is totally unlike me, by the way.
Then, a few weeks later, I emailed her mom (the same one) to offer to help with a baby shower. Her mom basically tells me because the daughter lives far, they will have a party the weekend of my wedding, if it's a girl. (If it is a boy, there will be a bris 7 days after the baby is born). Now, my first reaction was, I can't be there!! How upsetting! I love this girl and can't wait to meet baby and I want to celebrate too. Maybe I can squeeze it in? Then, Bridezilla came. I can literally hear myself saying, "BUT IT"S MY SPECIAL DAY!!!!" I understand this bridesmaid must travel to come to my wedding, and with all her family local to this area, I see how much easier it is. Really. But at the same time, I deserve one weekend where it is just about me, right? I accept she can't come to my shower or my bachelorette party, but my wedding weekend!? Can she at least do it on Monday, memorial day, after all my festivities??? She had her wedding, and it was all about her. her mom would have FREAKED if the roles were reversed. Is it not ok to demand the same? I also get traveling with a newborn isn't easy. But..well...I get this day one time. Do babies trump weddings? Luckily, she is having a boy and this became an immediate moot point.

Bridezilla moment #3: I am tempted to not share this and by no way, want to hurt anyone's feelings.... but I KNOW I have issues (throughout my life) Sharing the spotlight. I am SOOOO excited about my growing family! I can't wait to have a new brother and sister in law! At the same time, the Bridezilla in me is a little taken back that they have planned their wedding 2 months after me and a co-bachelor-bachelorette party 2 weeks before our wedding. We can't go, obviously, but FSIL keeps saying, "its just a weekend, you can make it, come on," which I feel is unfair, especially since she RSVPed yes to mine, and backed out after we booked hotels, etc, because she couldn't spend money since she had her own wedding....I TOTALLY understand that, but I don't think its fair to not have the same understanding! Mr. CP is sad we can't go, as am I....Thoughts?

So have you had any Bridezilla moments? Share, we all love to hear them right?

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Blogger AmyJean {Relentless BrideĀ®} said...

That story between you and your mom is me and my mom lol


Thursday, February 19, 2009 7:09:00 PM  
Blogger toni said...

I don't think these are BZ moments at all. If anything, those around you are being unreasonable and unfair. Incidentally, I really hate that word, because everyone around you is so quick to use it when you have your own ideas for your wedding. What separates you from a true BZ is that you feel bad about thinking, even for a moment "but it's my day" and you moved on from that situation more positive about the day and less stressed out. Don't be so down on yourself because you can't please everyone. That doesn't make you a BZ. It just makes you unique, creative, and someone who knows oneself very well. Not everyone can attest to that.

Good luck with your wedding planning! It sounds as though we are date twins (May 23, 2009?)... the next few weeks are going to be nerve-wracking, I can feel it. Be sure to eat lots of apples and take some time to breathe...





This is the happiest time of your life thus far, and will only get better :-D

Thursday, February 19, 2009 9:36:00 PM  
Blogger Alexandra said...

It's really hard when you're trying to please everyone, but don't stress, there's enough people out there who genuinely want to help you during this special time. To avoid bridezilla moments, try Weddzilla.com, you can post exactly what you're looking for & the vendors come to you!

Tuesday, March 03, 2009 9:53:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't think these are over-the-top things to ask of others. It is true, you only get one day, and although it's not as important to others as it is to you & your fiance', others should show the same respect that you have them, on their big day. Here's a 'Bridezilla' moment for you:
My fiance and I are very much alike, except when it comes to our tastes in wedding planning, apparently. He is very traditional and would like our wedding to be like everyone else's (Lame,I know!)
I am completely on the opposite spectrum. I like new things, things to get people talking, and personal/meaningful things. Case in point: I asked him what song he would like as our recessional, and wouldn't it be cool if it were more than just the same song they always use? Him: 'No, I like the song they use. You can't go changing all these traditions. There's a reason for them.' Me: 'How many weddings have you gone to again?' Him: 'Uh....one-but-that's-beside-the-point-' Me: 'Yeaaah. How about 'Today' by Smashing Pumpkins?' Him: 'Sweet!'
Not exactly Bridezilla, but he wants to be more involved than I am having him be, in the planning. Only because I know what's best! ;)

Tuesday, March 24, 2009 12:04:00 PM  

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