Saturday, March 21, 2009

Bare Necessities

So tonight after a lovely dinner with the Future In Laws, we were going over the guidelines from the church that we recently received. The church recently redid them so they've changed a little since we got engaged last June.

The Future MIL finally noticed, as she's seen my dress, a little stipulation in the Church's guidelines...

"In keeping with the nature of the Sacrament of Marriage, all members of the wedding party must be dresses appropriately for church.
In particular, this means no strapless dresses or bare shoulders/"spaghetti straps" for the bride or any member of the wedding party, unless a jacket or sweater is worn over them."

Freaders, this is a problem.

My dress. Is strapless.

And freaders? I love my Church, I respect God and all that schtuff and for Mass? I would never wear a tube top or something like that. But freaders? THIS? Is my wedding gown. All paid for in it's beautiful strapless glory. And I'm going to be stubborn because that dress? Would not look nearly as lovely with a shawl or a sweater. No. Way.

Unfortunately, I am going to have to purchase shawls or pashmina's for my gals, thankfully it'll only be for the ceremony. But still...I just hope and pray (har har) that our priest doesn't say "oh no sorry. You'll have to wear a shawl...blah blah blah. I won't marry you blah blah blah."

Because you know, this is definitely something that could have been brought to my attention back in like...June when we signed up. Because this? I would have noticed. In the guidelines we only briefly got to skim over and didn't receive a copy of until a week ago. Oh bless you Church, for You and I, might have some issues in the coming months.

But contrary to my father's suggestion, it is FAR too late to be changing anything else major in the wedding like the location (another post for another time).

Have you had any issues with your religious ceremony? Are you having a religious ceremony that has similar guidelines? How did you comply/rebel?

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Blogger Katy said...

I'm really sorry. I'm not looking forward to hearing all the rules from our church.

If the church still says you need to cover your shoulders and you don't want to use a shawl or pashmina, what about a beautiful bolero?

Something like these might work and wouldn't detract from the beauty of the dress:




Sunday, March 22, 2009 8:37:00 AM  
Blogger Bitsy said...

Wait at St Peter's??? I have a strapless dress too. (An expensive one at that.) They never told us that!

Sunday, March 22, 2009 9:44:00 AM  
Blogger Only One Heidi said...

@Bitsy - yeah I just found out because my FMIL was looking over the thing that we just got from the church about the rules and the fees (that we had to ASK for) I'm just not going to mention it - what are they going to do not marry me?

i wouldn't worry too much about it, if you do happen to decide to ask about it let me know what they say!

@katy - thanks for the suggestions, I'll look into those!

Sunday, March 22, 2009 8:53:00 PM  
Blogger Julie said...

You're going to cannon classes right? With the priest that's marrying you???

Why don't you ask him?

See what he says.

Wednesday, April 01, 2009 3:06:00 PM  

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