Saturday, October 24, 2009

This is my confession

This may have to be a multiple part post because I have so much to share! First off, I have been married for three weeks and so far so good:-P The wedding was fabulous and I would have blogged sooner but I had another wedding to attend the weekend after our wedding and an event at work the weekend after that so it has been a little hectic since October 3rd!

Before all the good juicy wedding goodness, let me confess...

...The day before the wedding was slightly disastrous. Well, at least for me it seemed that way. The entire time we were engaged I had a few "moments" where I felt like ripping someones head off, but for the most part (and I have people who will testify on my behalf) I was well behaved as far as brides to be are concerned. But the day before the wedding, I snapped. Maybe it was lack of sleep, or that my cake lady bailed on me a few days before, or the crappy weather, but man, I was not nice at all for a good chunk of the day on Friday. I hate to admit it, but I was definitely a bridezilla for a few hours.

While I would never condone being one, I sympathize with other brides who have just lost it at one point or another. I think we all want to be the most perfect bride and have everyone who worked with us or were part of the wedding say that we were so fabulous that they have nothing bad to say. Well, I can honestly say that this is true for most of my wedding planning, but I would not fault anyone for calling me out for my lapse of decorum the day before the wedding.

I was on the phone snapping at people, sending angry text messages, bursting into tears when I felt that the food for the rehearsal picnic got there too late (which while it was a tad bit late, no one noticed or cared by me), that no one was having fun (they all were---I mean--there was beer and good friends, how could they not have fun?), and that the world was collapsing around me. I know, drama queen. And I thought the no one could tell that I was having a breakdown but everyone knew.

So my advice for the day before the wedding is to think about what my now husband told me when I was nearly in tears and being a total sourpuss: "You are the only one not enjoying today and you need to get over it. No one cares about all the things you are freaking out about."

He was right and by the time the rehearsal started, after seriously mulling over what he had said, I was back to being me and the last 6 hours were a blur. I spent the rest of the night enjoying the time I had with friends and family who came from far and away to be with me and my husband to celebrate our wedding. I also spent a good chunk of time apologizing to the people I had snapped at.

As you get ready for your big day, keep those words in mind. It is so easy to get caught up in all the frenzy and fuss of the wedding that we sometimes forget that no one but us, the bride, cares about all the teeny details.

Have you had a meltdown yet?


Blogger Unknown said...

Hey Hon! Congrats and the wedding! I am trying not to have any break downs, but they may be inevitable for me. Lol. Question...who was your cake lady? If you don't want to say on here, can you email me. I am curious because the cake person I hired is out of Charlestown and I recently heard she bailed on someone a few days before the wedding and I am nervous its the same person.

Sunday, October 25, 2009 11:05:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mafalda Wheeler. It was really disappointing.

As for breakdowns, I was hell bent on not having one either. Definitely read your post before mine too! Good luck and if you do have a breakdown, people will still love you afterwards.

Monday, October 26, 2009 11:31:00 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Thanks for the info. Thank God that is not our lady...I am still stressing over things that have not happened yet which I need to stop doing. Thanks for the advice, Chica!

Monday, October 26, 2009 12:13:00 PM  

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