Friday, June 23, 2006

Vow Renewal: Celebrating A Life Of Love

An Eternal LoveVow Renewal Ceremonies.

I never thought something so innocent, so innocuous and so simple could cause so much controversy, interest and just plain discussion.

Many people have asked me why I wish to have this ceremony. I have been happily married for over five years already; what's the point?

Am I trying to relive former "bride" glory? Am I trying to have "my day" all over again? Was it because I was married in Vegas and never had a "proper" wedding?

(Note: It is my personal belief that anytime you sign the appropriate documents, fork over the requested fee, and speak the vows in front of any official licensed to wed people, it is a "proper" wedding, so, in that respect, I have had a "proper" wedding)

Has our married life become lackluster and I am looking for something to "spice it up" again? Have we been through a "rough patch" and now need to reaffirm ourselves to each other?

Actually, it's none of those things.

What I want is to celebrate LOVE. And it's a different kind of love than the first-blush-on-the-rose, starry-eyed, dreams-for-a-wonderful-future-as-you-walk-down-the-aisle type of love.

I am celebrating the love born of arguing over who hogs more of the bed at night.

Mature CoupleThe love that survives wondering how in the world you are going to make it the next week and a half to payday with twenty dollars in your account (or worse a negative twenty dollars in the account).

Celebrating a love that lasts through weekly fights with the washing machine, conflicting work schedules, differences of opinions, PMS (mine and his), tears, laughter, orgasms, snoring, illness, weight gain...

Celebrating a love of a life that has been shared together.

You are a bride for one day, but a wife for as long as the marriage lasts — and with all the ups and downs of just everyday life, staying together these days is a reason to really CELEBRATE.

I don't think in our society we celebrate LOVE enough -- we pooh-pooh sentimentality, snicker over people who show any true emotion, and wonder about the mental sanity of people who dare truly express positive emotions. We are almost gleeful as we read daily in tabloids of the break-ups and divorces of celebrities -- we snap up the negative like junkies in need of a fix.

But when Tom Cruise jumps for joy (literally all over Oprah's couch) over his love for Katie, we all want to see him checked into the nearest mental facitility.

Well, call me the last of the die-hard optimistic romantics...

For me, there is something very special about saying I do to the same person all over again -- because you KNOW what you are getting, and really WANT to do it all over again. It's not something a lot of people do, but I feel it's something that should be celebrated as well and with as much joy and excitement as the first time.

And why not?

I love my husband as much, if not more love, than I did the day I first said "I do."

So I don't feel the least bit guilty about doing the d*amn thing, having an elegant affair, a beautiful commeration of a life filled with love. Perhaps if more people did, perhaps there would be a lower divorce rate in this country.

And at least, this time I KNOW what I am getting...and I can't wait to get more.


Blogger Nunzia said...

I think that's wonderful! Congratulations!

Wednesday, June 28, 2006 9:54:00 AM  

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