Thursday, July 06, 2006

So, I'm a Perfectionist...

Well, as I mentioned in my last post (which was way too long ago… sorry), I haven’t really gotten a handle on any of my wedding planning. I still have no idea where we are going to have the reception (or the ceremony), I still have not nailed down a date (or a budget). My plans are pretty much… not really planned at all. But still, I take time every now and then to run ideas through my head and visit sites like TheKnot.com and WeddingChannel. And yet, it seems that everything I see seems out of reach.

My sister got married a couple of weeks ago in City Hall and I couldn’t be there. She is having a baby in October and so she decided to forgo having a traditional wedding given how spur of the moment all these life changes have been for her. This weekend I’m heading home to attend a family dinner at a restaurant to celebrate. I guess you can call this her reception, but I can’t help but feel that given my sister’s circumstances, I shouldn’t be planning at all. I know that my wedding and future plans should not have anything to do with hers, but I feel guilt in expecting my parents to help in anyway in making hubby-to-be and me a wedding when my sister did not get one (even though it was her choice.)

It’s kind of taken the wind out of my sails and made me feel selfish for wanting everything to be perfect for my wedding, but I’ve always been the idealistic one – and the perfectionist. Still, I can’t help dreading the questions that I know will be directed my way: “Have you two set a date?” “Where?” “When?” etc. I wish I knew.

I look forward to going home to share this day with my sis and her new hubby. It will be nice to focus on someone else’s wedding for a while! But you can bet that the 5 hour trip there and back will leave me with lots of time and room for wondering…


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hiya. I'm in Arlington also planning for a wedding that doesn't have any answers to the "'W" questions yet, but I'm certainly trying.

One day I want it at a synagogue in my hometown, and the next day I'm having 30 people fly to the Caribbean. Then I decide nah it needs to be in the DC area so it's easier for me. Now I'm back to hometown.

You can have a spectacular "perfect" wedding in your eyes without a crazy budget. I would say find a place that has such a spectacular inside (and outside) that only sparse decorations are necessary, if at all.

Also to answer the date question it's nice to set a date to set the date. So I've told my family, "I'm going to set a date after the semester begins." (I'm in school).

You'll be fine!

Wednesday, July 12, 2006 8:01:00 AM  

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