mama drama

mmk raise your hand if your mom - as much as you love her - is driving you a little nutty during this wedding planning process.

*raises hand*

My mom and I have a pretty good relationship. I mean it's a little rocky sometimes (a lot of drama in the past that has settled for the most part), but generally we get along, and she does try very hard to be helpful. But sometimes.. sigh.

par exemple. A few weeks ago she took me to Michael's and JoAnn Fabric for some wedding craftiness supplies, and I told her I wanted to try making my own birdcage veil so I was looking for french or russian netting. JoAnn did not have any, so I said I'd just order it online. My mom says she could probably crochet something like what I'm looking for and I was amazed that that might be possible and agreed that she should try making a small bit of it to see if it was what I had in mind. It was clear that this was a no-obligation experiment, if I didn't like it, it would be fine, and all she was making was the netting, not the whole veil.

and then last night she emails me saying she's got this grand sketch of a veil design and she's not sure if it's going to work but if it does she thinks it's going to be really pretty. I asked her if I could see the sketch and she said she didn't want me to see it until it was done, and even admitted that she might have to win me over on it.

I'm trying really hard not to let any kind of bridezilla out during this whole process, certainly don't want to unleash it on my mother, but I was kind of hurt that she had just tried to hijack my veil making plans and then on top of it, she thought it would be ok for her to guilt me into wearing the veil she designed for me without my input.

I feel a little bad for having basically put an abrupt Stop Work order on her project. I know that she just wants to contribute and be helpful (she is not able to contribute in any way financially). But we're still 8 months out so I figured I needed to be firm now so I don't lose control of the whole wedding by the time it comes around.

I think I'm being dramatic about this incident leading to losing control of the wedding. But I'm curious if this is a pretty regular occurrance, where mothers and/or other loved ones try very hard to help but end up driving you insane.