Saturday, March 20, 2010

Six months ‘til the wedding and LAID OFF?

Upon my arrival at work last Monday morning my boss informed me that I was being laid off. Not the best news to hear when you’re planning a wedding. Maybe I should have seen it coming—working as an editor for a small company that recently lost a client. I was the last to join, I was the first to go. Logically it all made sense (for them anyway), but it was indeed a blow to my wellbeing.

Amid my stress and frustration, Mr. Cathedral Heights reacted with understanding and empathy, assuring me that we’ll make our bills and have the wedding we’ve been planning in September. Our parents are helping us with the wedding costs quite a bit, which saves us from having to drastically cut costs.

As I’m sure you’d imagine, the past week has been difficult for me—full of mixed emotions at this situation. I have had consistent, full-time work for more than nine years, since graduating college, so this state is rather unfamiliar to me. I've been attempting to stay positive by working out, searching job listings, networking, and continuing with the wedding planning, but I’ve also had days where I just want to hide in bed and read an escape book (The Golden Compass, by Philip Pullman, has been excellent for that).

I realize that I’m not the only one dealing with a layoff right now, and I need to appreciate the positive parts of my life—that I’m marrying a caring, kind, intelligent man and I am able to lean on him, friends, and family for emotional support. But, there’s always that other side of me that just wants to drown in sorrow and self pity, as hard as it is to admit that here.

My friends who have dealt with a layoff seem to give common advice: Take your time and figure out what you want to do. In the meantime, I have plenty of wedding tasks to keep me busy!

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Blogger Chelsea said...

Keep your chin up, this too shall pass! That's something my mom has always said to me, I find it comforting that nothing lasts forever, not even the bad stuff. I wish you the best of luck finding a new job/path in life!!

Sunday, March 21, 2010 11:52:00 AM  
Blogger Louise said...

I feel your pain. The Candyman was laid off a month after we got engaged, my salary was reduce 10% 5 months later. It all was so stressful and lame. We got through it though - all the more stronger! You will too!

Sunday, March 21, 2010 7:47:00 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

I have been there as well.Try looking for work from home websites that pay writers and editors on an hourly basis, just so for the time being while you are looking for a regular job.This will help you in some ways.Take some time to reflect, because all things happen for a reason. Most of all,pray constantly and never give up for this too shall pass!!!

Sunday, March 21, 2010 10:52:00 PM  
Blogger Haus said...

I can possibly help you out for some extra money during your job-search.

For the last 5+ years I've sold PartyLIte Candles and had a blast while earning serious cash.

I have 2 FREE START-UP kits in my home, and I can ship you one no cost, and all you'd have to do is ask 3-6 people to hold a candleparty in April.

You'd earn about $100/show. Imagine if you did 2 shows a week until your wedding...That's about $4800.00 and more with our new-job bonuses!

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Monday, March 22, 2010 12:24:00 PM  
Blogger Only One Heidi said...

oh mah goodness. The same. Exact. Thing happened to me. March 12 2009 - 6 months to our wedding day. We made it all work, spending a lot of savings that would have been useful the past few months after moving - Hubs later lost his job the weekend after invitations went out (to his former employers no less!) and thus the month and a half before the wedding, we were both unemployed. It's awful, stressful but it's trying in a good way. if you and the mr can get through this, you can get through anything.

Keep your chin up gal, and if you ever need to vent, email me, I've been there xox :)

Monday, March 22, 2010 9:25:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

In two weeks I would have been photographing a wedding however in January the groom got laid off and then in February the bride did. The stress of this and the pressure since the wedding was only a few months away was too much so they called me to tell me they cancelled the wedding :(
I am SO sad for them. This is a really tough time and I hope you can work through it.

poliweddings (dot) com

Friday, March 26, 2010 1:16:00 AM  
Blogger Erika said...

Thank you all so much. These comments made me smile and feel a lot less alone! I appreciate it!

Thursday, April 01, 2010 5:02:00 PM  
Blogger amber said...

What a nightmare :( Best of luck with job hunting AND wedding planning. Also, The Golden Compass is AMAZING.

Saturday, April 03, 2010 4:06:00 PM  

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