Thursday, January 17, 2008

The more the merrier...

I'm not sure how many people there are like me out there, but I feel I can't be too rare. I have my best Friends from HS, My best Friends from College and My best friends from the "real world". Now in each of these groups there are about 2-3 Core friends, not to mention the 5-6 peripheral friends. However, take 2-3 core friends in each group and you have a pretty large bridal party.

At first I listened to everybody when they said "don't even THINK about having more then 7 girls in your bridal party", I painfully sat there and tried to figure out who was my "better" friend, it was painful. It involved more crying and thinking than anything else. My fiance told me "screw what people thing its your wedding do it", but i was a naive "have to follow everyone else" bride-to-be, and i went ahead with just 7 girls ( keep in mind one is FI sister ).

I made two of my closest friends readers, another one is going to be a greeter...but there were still two friends I didn't mention the word "bridal party" to, i didn't update our website with the bridal party, i didn't pick out dresses, I just knew my wedding wouldn't feel right without them standing up next to me.

Finally this past weekend I had an epiphany. I was back at my Alma mater, dropping off a friends sister to start her freshman year of college,it made me very sentimental and reflective. I realized, I didn't care what people said, I wanted my best friends to be up there on that day. I got on the phone right than and there and I asked them.

I am so happy with my choice. I feel that I am so lucky to really have that many girls I consider my close Friends. Every single one of them I talk to almost daily, if not weekly. Since I already had two maids of honors the walking down the aisle part was easy (one on each side of the best man) and FI has 8 groomsman, so it all works out :) I finally feel so at ease!

Have any of you encountered a problem where you were going against the "norm" or a time when you just Had to stop caring what everyone else thought and go with your gut? If you are ever in that situation I recommend you go with your gut, because you only get married once, it should be everything you dream of.

*on a side not my mom and aunt are taking "make your own bouquet class" and they will be making my Bridesmaids bouquets, saving us hundreds of dollars!

^ Photo Courtesy of Shells By Hand --An idea of what my Bridal Party could look like ( this is actually a lil bit bigger) It sure looks like fun to me! :)


Blogger EthidiumBromide said...

I had the same problem -- best friends from elementary school, best friend from high school, best friends from undergrad, best friends from grad school. Add to the complication that my absolute BEST friend of them all is male.
I'm not trendy enough for a man of honor, and we didn't want a big bridal party (the last wedding we went to had 8 bridesmaids/groomsmen and it wound up being a disaster, and the bride told me she regretted it, so we didn't want to follow her). I wound up choosing people I had known the longest -- meaning my elementary school/high school friends and undergrad friends... and axed the graduate school friends (they totally understood, especially since I have only known them 2.5 years). Then, I made the BEST best friend and another one of my closest friends, also male, ushers, thereby alleviating my fiance's incompetent groomsmen from actually having to DO anything on the big day, like direct guests or hand out yarmulkes.

Thursday, January 17, 2008 3:32:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I actually went the opposite way. I had so many people I counted as important I was freaked out by having so many bridesmaids and so I said 'Forget it, lets go with none."
So instead of making all my friends buy a dress, even if I'm kind, they probably wont wear again, hair/makeup and the whole nine yards, we decided to just have siblings in the bridal party. It will mean a lot less chaos in the bridal room, less chaos for pictures, less chaos in general.
And my friends were actually happy to not feel any pressure to do the whole stressful bridesmaids thing.
Were having parties and are celebrating, but they are not required to do anything they don't have time/don't want to do. And that makes it a bit of a more casual approach, but also, so far, very fun.

Thursday, January 17, 2008 5:31:00 PM  
Blogger Kate said...

I'm new to this blog but just had to tell you that I too was in a similar position. I was trying to stick to this number because in my head that was what was right. I ended up in agony as to who to cut - and couldn't do it! So I will have 8 girls up there with me and I couldn't be happier:)

Friday, January 18, 2008 11:47:00 AM  

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